Til death us do part? A 2018 study into what makes a successful relationship
Asking ten “critical” questions before embarking on a serious relationship can help couples thrive according to a 2018 study by the University of Exeter.
Long-term relationships last when they are built on friendship, respect, realistic expectations, shared interests and humour, according to the research.
Evidence from couples, as well family lawyers, mediators and judges has helped identify the ten key aspects of a relationship which other couples can use to reflect on to see if they are likely to thrive and stand the test of time.
Continuing to ask the ten critical questions can also help couples build their relationship.
The questions are:
- Are my partner and I a 'good fit'?
- Do we have a strong basis of friendship?
- Do we want the same things in our relationship and out of life?
- Are our expectations realistic?
- Do we generally see the best in each other?
- Do we both work at keeping our relationship vibrant?
- Do we both feel we can discuss things freely and raise issues with each other?
- Are we both committed to working through hard times?
- When we face stressful circumstances would we pull together to get through it?
- Do we each have supportive others around us?